When a person is in that space, it is only natural to (visit with them and) offer condolences.
Some folks are lousy consolers. Others are more sensitive and drop words in the right places. Yet, others just sit with you in silence...
The thing, however, is that regardless of what they offer you. A very critical ingredient in handling loss is your self-conversation. What do you say to you about the situation?
Ultimately, those who come around will leave. Over time, the visits will peter out. Even the person(s) who came to stay will have to go. And you will be left alone..
You can give in to tears, get overwhelmed by grief, and become depressed. Or you can encourage yourself and gradually move from existence back to living.
If you reckon there is something worth living for, these will help:
~ Take time to grieve (it is okay to do so; it helps with healing)
~ Accept the irreversibility of the situation (death is, at this time, at least, final; let go of what is gone.)
~ Decide to live for what you have left (there is always something left; choose that it is worth it)
Remind yourself of how resilient you are (if all the other things do not kill you, this cannot)
Welcome to your future!
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