Imagine that a young man who is still in the university loses his father. The deceased left no inheritance that could be fallen upon. His burial, of course, would have to hold. The young man's siblings were still in school. The young man himself was not making enough money to finance his own education.
In such a situation, the most natural thing to do would be to reach out to all the people you know, tell them your tale of woe and ask for help.
As you may have already experienced, rarely does this work. 'Most everyone has something that makes it impossible for them to help you (although, they really would have loved to). And I am talking of those who truly wanted to help but were impeded by circumstances. The point here is that you end up not getting much aid via this avenue.
What I alluded to at the start actually happened -- to me.
There are three ways to respond to that situation:
• Get angry at your family and friends (and the world). Blacklist everyone who did not come through for you. And go around with a chip on your shoulder.
• Get over the disappointment. Make excuses for them and move on (understanding that nobody owes you anything).
• Get motivated. Put on your game face and hustle like your life depends on it (for, in truth, it does).
I took the last two options. Why? So, that I will better because of the experience. So, that I will not hold back when I encounter those who may need support.
If I do not tell you, you may never guess the process and story that led here. I share it that it may encourage you to get up and make something out of your disappointments. And that you convert them to compassion prompts instead of bitterness prongs.
Welcome to your future!
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