Was seeing this movie the other day when one character asked another about his relationship:
"We took a break." He replied.
"How long now?"
"Six months."
Immediately a thought popped into my head, that is a break-up, not a break.
Relationships and affairs of the heart are arguably one of the most fluid things there are. It is near impossible to put them in boxes. Each one is unique, follows its own peculiar trajectory and faces its own particular challenges.
That is why there is no one-size-fits-all that can be applied to relationships.
However, in the midst of all that diversity, there are salient markers that one can look out for to be able to conduct a health check on their relationship and guage the direction.
That is what this post is about. To help you decipher where you are and help you decide where you wanna be.
Quality of communication:
Folks communicate in different ways and for differing amounts of time but what is the quality of your communication? Is it open and satisfying? Or does it leave you feeling like this is one-sided?
Time and availability:
Do they make out time for you? Even from super-busy schedules? Or do you seem to come last or only get attention when you demand it or otherwise do something to get it? Are they willing to adjust their time to accommodate you? It is vital to point out that you do not make this a habit, so that it does not come across as inconsideration.
Red flags:
If you perpetually feel like something is wrong and have a sense of unease about the whole thing that you cannot place a finger on, it might just be your guts seeing red flags. Slow down, process those and be guided accordingly.
PS
If most of the things written here apply to you, you want to ask yourself this question: if the other person never changes, can I live with these happily?
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